# Relationshipssss

- URL: https://numo.ai/community/OHkWktEjrM1Dlmaj8rpA/relationshipssss
- Language: en
- Author: @ChaoticCucumber
- Posted: 2023-07-21T03:07:42.974Z
- Updated: 2023-07-21T03:08:03.961Z
- Tag: other
- Comments: 3
- Likes: 2

I'm a people pleaser. Im terrified of  
being alone so i will tell you what you  
want to hear to avoid conflict about  
certain things. I cry when I get yelled  
at but can be ruthlessly vicious and  
purposefully say things that I know will  
hurt (especially if you go there first).  
I have a huge heart but also a heart  
of stone. I fucked up my relationship  
because I lied to my boyfriend about  
doing something that I didn't actually  
do, because for some stupid reason  
i thought it would be the easiest way  
for him to move past it but it had the  
exact opposite effect and I hate myself  
for it. Idk if this is adhd related but my  
unregulated emotions certainly are.  
Anyways. Needed to get that off my  
chest. Thanks for coming to my ted  
talk.

## Comments (3)

### @imommy31 — 2023-07-21T18:15:21.202Z

Def a recovering people pleaser here. Means you were raised with little/ no voice, boundaries or autonomy. The older generations didn’t believe kids are whole people deserving of the same respect they themselves demand. So, it’s likely a habit that was drilled into us from childhood. Now making boundaries with my mom is… fun 🙄

But we have to have them. Have you considered counseling? It would help you for sure. I am going and I highly recommend it. You do have to find the right one though

### @adhdude1 — 2023-07-21T09:17:30.473Z

I feel like it's ok to tell the truth even if you want to be a people pleaser, that huge heart of yours has so much love in it and telling the truth i think will only strengthen a relationship between 2 people

### @pinkmess — 2023-07-21T03:25:02.838Z

Thank you for sharing! That’s what we are all here for 😊