# Does anyone else have problems with unmasking? Finding the real you? 

- URL: https://numo.ai/community/d0cveho/does-anyone-else-have-problems-with-unmasking-finding-the-real-you
- Language: en
- Author: @Meplan
- Posted: 2024-05-01T11:43:25.436Z
- Tag: question
- Comments: 5
- Likes: 9

## Comments (4)

### @rockysgirl — 2024-05-03T13:08:55.815Z

100%. I didn’t realize that I had spent my life in extreme discomfort until I was able to sit in my own company. Once I learned (and I continue to learn new things about myself everyday) I started to see how I would act differently once I was around other people again. It became painstakingly obvious to me and still feels very heavy to socialize because I’m aware there is not always ‘space’ for the real me

### @greene123 — 2024-05-03T02:48:14.838Z

yes, i’ve felt so much shame being myself that i’ve started wearing a mask very young. It is now very hard to recognize who i am under it and finding the real me

### @Meplan — 2024-05-02T07:07:43.843Z

So many good feedbacks 😊 thank you! 🤗 I am starting therapy next week 😊 i also feel a lot of shame. And actually i dont have any idea of who i am or what i want, witoute the mask and people pleasing. Its a slapp in the face to realise this. 

### @Julia from Numo — 2024-05-02T05:09:51.417Z

Well, for me, unmasking is connected with a lot of shame, as I always felt so weird before getting diagnosed, but I am working on this shame in my therapy.   
This a path! Do something little to unmask today in your offline life, and also unmask here! One day, you will feel the satisfaction of showing your true self to the world.