# Misinterpreting Tone 

- URL: https://numo.ai/community/hdbvmps/misinterpreting-tone
- Language: en
- Author: @MandaLynn
- Posted: 2023-10-27T18:48:31.333Z
- Updated: 2023-10-27T18:48:40.659Z
- Tag: question
- Comments: 11
- Likes: 7

Does anyone else sometimes have the problem with others misinterpreting your tone in conversation or tasks at hand? Like this seems to happen to me a lot.. For example; At work I have been told that I sometimes sound frustrated or agitated when presenting solutions or answers to questions, but in reality I am very passionate about my job and tend to talk faster/louder when I know the correct answers to questions.. I’m not sure how to adjust this aspect of my ADHD. Does anyone have this issue or tips on how to improve? 

## Comments (6)

### @MS.ADHD.Em — 2023-11-06T04:59:19.039Z

Ever since I can remember, I’ve gotten in ‘trouble’ for my tone. To me, in my head, it sounds normal - to the person hearing me, it’s a verbal attack. I try to be mindful of it, but man…. I legit don’t hear it 🥴

### @Unknown — 2023-11-03T05:08:47.774Z

Yes! Especially when talking things out with my husband!

### @catnapsallday — 2023-11-02T01:15:51.597Z

Yeah, I’ve noticed that sometimes. If I record myself and listen back to it, I can tell. But not in the moment. 

I ask family when I want to check that my tone matches my intention.

### @Miss.P.Harley — 2023-10-28T19:32:09.877Z

also my bf says u scream or haul at him when I’m worked up and I don’t even notice the volume change. So now he kindly reminds me of my tone or level of my voice, so I calm down  and breathe. 

### @Miss.P.Harley — 2023-10-28T19:30:17.788Z

I babysit and I can tell when my tone changes because it scares the one kid I have. Very sensitive kid. But that’s my eye opener to go take a break and breathe.

### @sleepysquirrel — 2023-10-27T23:09:16.534Z

Yes it's me 😭  
I often get told that I sound angry when I'm just caring about things I talk about