# I feel terribly anxious about drawing my boundaries 

- URL: https://numo.ai/community/iD2GXe0u3PVdyHrmvyrj/i-feel-terribly-anxious-about
- Language: en
- Author: @motloh
- Posted: 2023-06-02T07:37:22.759Z
- Tag: story
- Comments: 8
- Likes: 7

I just wrote a message to my ex husband that explains an absolutely adequate boundary I need to put. We are trying to re-launch the relationship between us and I know I'm doing a right thing explaining what behaviour is not ok for me but this feeling of waiting for his reaction is soooo stressful

## Comments (6)

### @orchids&tuks — 2023-06-03T10:13:03.932Z

You did the work 👏 🙌 💪

### @hodag — 2023-06-02T23:18:35.370Z

This is a normal reaction, but I would consider working through that natural “dread” you’re experiencing because it may be a trauma response (maybe not as a result of your prior relationship, but from a childhood experience), and unaddressed trauma has a nasty way of catching back up us if we don’t face it.

### @hereweareagain — 2023-06-02T14:21:27.878Z

It’s a temporary discomfort. You got this

### @Unknown — 2023-06-02T12:09:19.350Z

Yo

### @ukraïnka — 2023-06-02T11:09:10.694Z

No need to feel so nervous about it 🙌 only people who respect our boundaries can make us happy.

### @Unknown — 2023-06-02T08:12:03.650Z

I think this is very normal reaction to be anxious about it. Especially if you are afraid of him rejecting it