# HELP MEEEEEE 🙏🏼🙏🏼

- URL: https://numo.ai/community/v36nk6x/help-meeeeee
- Language: en
- Original language: fr
- Author: @elora.brgc
- Posted: 2026-04-24T17:49:13.072Z
- Updated: 2026-04-24T17:49:55.558Z
- Tag: question
- Comments: 12
- Likes: 4

I don't know how to define an unhealthy person and I don't know how to recognize when someone is unhealthy for me especially... I've experienced too many problems with manipulation, emotional harassment (and a lot of street harassment too, but oh well...), etc.   
I find it hard to tell myself that these people are bad and that I should distance myself from them as quickly as possible... in fact, it's the opposite: I get closer to them and distance myself from good people... I find excuses to innocent them...  
Can you help me find the "clues" that allow you to say that someone is toxic for you??

## Comments (6)

### @emmB@ — 2026-04-25T19:49:35.099Z

Here’s the tool I was talking about ; if you enter it into Google translate, I’m pretty sure it will help the non-French speaking members.

![](https://firebasestorage.googleapis.com/v0/b/mindist-well.appspot.com/o/postCommentsAssets%2Fv36nk6x%2FL03CfwWNRkT6A57hgTX2.jpg?alt=media&token=ea339ab4-233d-4eaf-81bd-33f3aa570e62)

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#### @emmB@ — 2026-04-26T07:05:20.870Z

🥺

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#### @elora.brgc — 2026-04-25T22:28:58.297Z

Thank you very much, that's awesome!!! 😍🥰🫶🏼  
I see that half of the people around me are really toxic… I'd even say the majority…

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### @emmB@ — 2026-04-25T15:15:41.363Z

Hello Elora, there's a very simple (but often effective) thing called the 'harcèlomètre': it's to help you objectively analyze the quality of your friendships, with a short descriptive phrase associated with a color; it goes from green to red, passing through yellow and orange. If you type 'harcèlomètre' into your search bar, you should find plenty of examples. I hope this can help you see things more clearly and distance yourself from toxic people...

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#### @elora.brgc — 2026-04-25T15:25:23.370Z

Oh thank you very much, I didn't know!

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### @crazyraccoon — 2026-04-25T14:27:56.014Z

It can be really helpful to meet a genuinely caring and kind friend or partner and use that as your standard. Then it becomes easier to notice when someone is mistreating you.

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#### @elora.brgc — 2026-04-25T15:45:11.699Z

That's a good idea, thank you 🙏🏼

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### @crazyraccoon — 2026-04-25T14:22:40.435Z

I also have trouble figuring out who toxic people are. A tip I’ve found helpful is to observe how others react to them. If most people(people that I really trust) seem uncomfortable or keep their distance, I take that as a cue to be cautious.

And I just don’t feel good after hanging out with toxic people. That’s how I know not to waste my time on them.

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#### @elora.brgc — 2026-04-25T15:46:05.622Z

Thanks for these tips !!! 🫶🏼

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### @Illia from Numo — 2026-04-24T20:29:08.602Z

often you feel drained after spending time with them

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### @Lucy 🧡💛🤍🩵💙 — 2026-04-24T20:29:08.570Z

If someone makes you uncomfortable or think less of yourself in any way that’s usually the sign to run as fast as you can

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#### @elora.brgc — 2026-04-24T22:13:01.280Z

But if the person manipulates us and emotionally blackmails us, and I, who doesn't know how to understand my emotions, don't realize that what she's doing is a problem, is there anything in their eyes, their features, their tones used, that would make you suspicious??

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