Parents can fail you...
And they can sabotage you. My ADHD is not the big challenge I face. It's the constant toxicity I grew up with and copied and learnt to be normal. Instead of support, I got self-blame Instead of responsibility, I got guilt reversal Instead of apologies, I got excuses Instead of respect, I got disregard Somehow my mom managed to undermine ANY attempt of mine to develop a sense of purpose and self respect and standing up for myself and others, she taught me to shut down and freeze. I wasn't allowed to act. I had to be blamed for being too embarrassing. Other people's needs were way bigger than mine. My worries are not worth to worry about. I was just too lazy and weird and loud. I was never good enough... My childhood depressions just a phase and to get attention... No. My ADHD would be a breeze to handle... If I only could accept that I am allowed to be. And allowed to grow Now I have to unlearn all that and learn all that. Yes parents can fail you. And they never learn to take their responsibility. But It's not YOU that is their fault. It is THEIR fault failing you. ♥️ One day I will know this for real
Først og fremst støtter jeg fullt ut din rett til å føle det du føler, og det er sannsynligvis veldig viktig for din bedring. Men siden ADHD er svært arvelig, behandlet de deg kanskje slik de selv ble behandlet. Kanskje gjennom generasjoner. Det kan ha vært alt de visste. For din egen del, og vel vitende om at du kom fra dem uansett, når det begynner å føles mulig for deg, vurder tilgivelse. Det betyr ikke å akseptere at det de gjorde var riktig, for det var det ikke. Det kan bety å akseptere at de gjorde sitt feilbarlige beste. Det viktigste er at tilgivelse er mer for deg enn for dem. Det kan til slutt frigjøre deg fra disse gamle båndene. Jeg føler din smerte gjennom skrivingen din, og jeg ber for helbredelse. Du er god og du er elsket. Jeg håper du kan bryte syklusen.