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What helped me was thinking about the dishes as a cycle rather than a task. The dishes are never “done”, they’re just at a different place in the cycle (dirty, wet, dry, in the cupboard) and when I have the energy I just try to move things to the next part of the cycle. It made it less overwhelming to realise I don’t have to do it all in one go.
Dishes are my most stressful cleaning task. I don’t have a dishwasher so EVERYTHING has to be washed by hand. I constantly am looking in the sink saying “I really need to do these today” or “if I can just do what’s there first thing every morning they won’t pile up.” I also have a toddler so the guilt of not being a good example can be crushing.
Same! I've found the best thing to help me with it it to divide it into separate tasks. 1. Sort out the different categories of dishes. 2. Rinse the dishes to get the gross stuff off. 3. Wash one category at a time. That way I can stop at any point during the washing process without feeling like I'm just horrible. And It also helps prioritize things I need now, and things I can wash later.
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