My whole life I never fit in any sort of group. Even with my ADHD diagnosis, which definitely is the reason I don’t fit into neurotypical stereotypes, I dont fit in the „ADHD-Inattentive-Type“ or in the „ADHD-Hyperactive-Type“. No, I’m the third Type „ADHD-Combined“. How do you get comfortable with this feeling of always being not like the others?
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But about being the third type of ADHD - combined. That is like the normal in the group of ppl with ADHD my uncle say and he is a psychologist for children and knows a lot about ADHD. So then you are like normal for being a ADHD person right? 💙❤️
I feel the same and have thought about that a lot in the past weeks. I’m a farmboy living in the countryside and I have two dads - that’s not normal there I live. I’m very small for my age like ppl don’t know me think I’m like 10 so they treat me like a younger boy. Our family is Jewish and that makes us different also. And I’m a boy but I really like to talk about deep stuff and like I show a lot of emotion and stuff and most boys my age are more interested football and I don’t really can’t talk to the girls either cuz they like think I talk to them cuz I’m in love or something and Im not. So I like have most older and younger friends- not so many my age cuz older boys are smarter and easier to talk with about deep stuff and younger boys are still fun to play with and are not obsessed with girls. I also have like ADHD but I’m not like most ADHD kids I know of either cuz most of them are like really bad in school and like have no manners at all. So I have started to like accept that this is probably just the way life is. All people are like different but I’m a little more different then other. But my dads say it’s not a bad thing to not be normal. Normal is not about good or bad they say. It’s a mathematical term that only say something about being like most other ppl like they say Albert Einstein was not normal cuz he was super smart and that is not normal cuz most ppl are average smart but it’s not better to average smart then super smart.
You are unique! That is so much cooler than boring old normal. Great minds don’t fit in, they set a new standard 🍀
Im so sorry that you feel like that and let me tell you I am also the combined/mixed type and I just always feel like I am not good enough and like a extreme disappointed.
I’m a combined type too. I totally get you. On the outside, I probably look like a normal, functional person — but I rarely feel like I truly fit in anywhere. It’s like I can be around people and still not feel comfortable being myself. I’ve been in therapy for about three years now, and I take antidepressants. My husband is neurodivergent too. And only recently did I realize that all my closest friends have always been neurodivergent as well. I just never noticed it — I used to think we were all just weird. But now I actually appreciate it — and I’ve started looking for those weird, wonderfully weird people around me. And now I don’t feel like there’s something wrong with me for not fitting in. I honestly don’t care anymore, but it took too much time. Hugs 🤗 🫂
Sorry you feel like this 🫂. I‘m also a combined type 🙌. But among other ADHDers - and I have a lot of them around, sometimes I even think nearly every person I like has some kind of neurodivergence - I usually don’t feel that different but rather connected. We have so much in common that I sometimes just like to point out differences only in a curious way. Among other people I often feel my hyperactivity and my impulsiveness strongly and it helps me to tell them I’m aware of it (like “sorry if I interrupt you, that happens to me sometimes, don’t want to offend you”). And on really bad days I wish things like “why can’t I just be satisfied with going to the same work every single day for 30+ years and have one single hobby and smalltalk with people” and then I realize how strange that would be and how much I would hate it. And what also helps me accept myself is noticing what cool things have happened in my life because of being different/spontaneous/a fast learner/ always curious or having certain abilities.
Thank you all for your support. On somedays it’s hard to be the neurodivergent one. With you all on my side I don’t feel lonely anymore. 🤗