How should I react when my family disrespects me ?

Hello. I'm going to add to everything that's been said before. Of course, talk to someone about it and to the people responsible of those insults: saying this and this and this and that hurts my feelings. But if they don't understand it and change their behaviour, there's nothing much more you can do about them. I have an alcoholic father who was very kind before he got sick and now is nasty without noticing it. It's been 25 years I'm explaining each time when it happens and in different ways to make him stop and for me not to feel so sad : zip, nothing ! I'm assuming you want them to stop and you feel guilty also to beeing in SUCH a pain ? "I'm over reacting! God I wish I could not care about what they say to me, I'm not strong enough, bla bla bla" ... this kind of intern monologue beating yourself up. Thing is, in my belief, one cannot have ZERO reaction! Otherwise you're a psychopath or mot human at all 😅. So again, if the situation doesn't change from their side, the only thing you can control is you. Lessen your reactions with a therapist yes. Adapt your exposure. I decided to see my dadless often, shorten the phone calls and the time spent together. It's a strategy because I need to be Ok, I decided it's time for me to feel good. Same thing applies to interactions with other people: if you don't feel comfortable which is totally normal and they don't hear you out, walk away. Avoidance sometimes is the only escape. Now I'm not saying you should go through all those lengths, I'm just picturing the worst case scenario here, right! Your feelings are valuable and also a sort of superpower to mesure the horrible things in this world and bring awareness to be in a more gentle place 🪷. Work with someone to find which strategy matches your personality, so you don't get them bring you down and you don't let yourself bring you down either. Good luck. wishing you strenght and softness 🫂

The most important (in my opinion) is: Finding out, whether it's disrespect by toxic people (yeah, they do exists as whole families) or whether you are just suffering with rejection sensitivities disphoria (ADHD-associated)- cause afterwards it is a diametrically way to go... keeping distance with them and working on not feeding the toxic or just explaining your needs, communicate and working on it altogether So, I would start with somebody who can help you find out about that. A wise person out of your surrounding people, a therapist...

You might try sharing a video to help them understand your adhd challenges. I’m having success with letting my family know more about what’s going on with me. Prepping them ahead of the time when I get triggered has been helpful

I think you should tell them that you feel disrespected when they say (xyz) and that it is NOT OK to say that to you anymore. In the future if it continues, you will be removing yourself from the situation/conversation. Start with how you feel, “I feel disrespected when you say …..” Rather than “don’t say that to me” or some other directive. We teach people how to treat us by what we allow to continue. Set a boundary and don’t allow it to continue.

Roast them and call them disappointments that’s what I would want to do

What kind of insults?