Iâve been recently diagnosed. Iâm 56 and Iâve had such a hard time believing my life can or will be different than it always has been. Itâs good to have a diagnosis and Iâm having a hard time reconciling it with my lifetime belief that Iâm just less than. My depression and anxiety seem to take over all the time. Anyone have any tips or positive insights?
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I guess itâs about challenging those very ingrained beliefs we have, sometimes Iâm able to do this but sometimes not! I think apps like this help though, when we see someone else beating themselves up over something, I think it can make us realise how mean we are being to ourselves!
I was just diagnosed with ADHD and ASD 2 years ago at the age of 33 and I struggle with it on a daily basis. But it has helped me personally knowing what is happening in my brain and body. As well as knowing that my depression and anxiety are symptoms of ADHD & ASD. I am also treating both as well. And in the process of doing so I have been able to learn a lot about myself and how to cope with my symptoms so that I donât spiral out like I used to do for far too long.
Iâm 53 got diagnosed at 50âŠLots of things make sense now, but itâs still hard to manage emotions for meâŠIâm overwhelmed all the time!!! ButâŠ.we have to take the time and go through a âcheck listâ of sorts while breathing âŠI feel the same as you much of the time as my anxiety/stress/depression turns into ANGER!⊠anyway, Iâm trying to do this 2 small mm at a time! Hugs to you! ~ 2 mm Mindshift Momentum
Now that you have a diagnosis, you can let go of all the negative self talk youâve done your whole life. Now you know it wasnât a choice. Youâre not lazy. Youâre not weird in a bad way. Youâre not any of the things you, or anyone else have told you or accused you of being. You are free of all of that! Own it. Walk with your head held high! ïżŒKnowing is half the battle and learning wins the battle! You are already ïżŒhalfway there!
Let yourself mourn the life you could have lived. I went through this and I still am. I was diagnosed last year at 30. I always think about how my life could have been. But I try to think I wouldn't be where I am now without my past. And try my best to do what I can moving forward and except the diagnosis and start learning from it
Itâs hard to come to terms with the thought that lots of things that were attributed to you as quirks or character flaws were just the fact that your brain processes differently and that you could have had a whole lifetime of not knowing and receiving help. Itâs a lot to think through talking to a professional always helps.
It is a time of transition & learning after diagnosis. My recommendations: 1. Read one relevant ADHD article most days. (Web MD and Mayo Clinic both have good info you can trust.) 2. Donât rush to change everything. KEEP what works for you and give new approaches a chance. 3. I initially kept my diagnosis private. I only shared it with my spouse, two kids, and my 3 sisters. 4. Keeping my diagnosis quiet initially, was the right choice for me. As I tried to accept and understand MY ADHD, I tried different ADHD meds, went to talk therapy to help me understand ADHD and me, tried ADHD tips & understand myself, I frequently fumbled & failed, with some successes. I discussed the fails and success only within my trusted group and my therapist. I didnât discuss any of it with co-workers and friends . Both didnât pay that much attention to my ups and downs because they had no idea what I was going through. 5. Some things helped me other things did not. What works is as individual as you are. 5. Medicine doesnât make ADHD go away. If your current med makes you feel lousy, talk to your doctor and try another ADHD medication. (Give each medication a few weeks or months b4 deciding it doesnât help.) Some ADHD coping tips will work for you, others will not. DO I SOUND DISCOURAGING NO! I WOULD NOT GO BACK TO THE WAY THINGS WERE PRIOR TO MY DIAGNOSIS, taking medication for ADHD and depression, and understanding why I do things the way I do. Once you have taken action, having a non-judgmental community, like this one, helps to feel ânormalâ and understood.
What has helped me is to think about my personality traits and how ADHD enhances them. For example, I am highly empathetic, I have a strong sense of justice, and have a creative mind. Also, I am learning to be more compassionate to my past self, because there were some things I did not have control over or was not aware of them.