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elora.brgc
32
för 6 dagar sedan

HELP MEEEEEE 🙏🏼🙏🏼

I don't know how to define an unhealthy person and I don't know how to recognize when someone is unhealthy for me especially... I've experienced too many problems with manipulation, emotional harassment (and a lot of street harassment too, but oh well...), etc. I find it hard to tell myself that these people are bad and that I should distance myself from them as quickly as possible... in fact, it's the opposite: I get closer to them and distance myself from good people... I find excuses to innocent them... Can you help me find the "clues" that allow you to say that someone is toxic for you??

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emmB@
34
för 5 dagar sedan

Here’s the tool I was talking about ; if you enter it into Google translate, I’m pretty sure it will help the non-French speaking members.

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emmB@för 4 dagar sedan

🥺

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elora.brgcför 5 dagar sedan

Thank you very much, that's awesome!!! 😍🥰🫶🏼 I see that half of the people around me are really toxic… I'd even say the majority…

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emmB@
34
för 5 dagar sedan

Hello Elora, there's a very simple (but often effective) thing called the 'harcèlomètre': it's to help you objectively analyze the quality of your friendships, with a short descriptive phrase associated with a color; it goes from green to red, passing through yellow and orange. If you type 'harcèlomètre' into your search bar, you should find plenty of examples. I hope this can help you see things more clearly and distance yourself from toxic people...

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elora.brgcför 5 dagar sedan

Oh thank you very much, I didn't know!

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crazyraccoon
19
för 5 dagar sedan

It can be really helpful to meet a genuinely caring and kind friend or partner and use that as your standard. Then it becomes easier to notice when someone is mistreating you.

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elora.brgcför 5 dagar sedan

That's a good idea, thank you 🙏🏼

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crazyraccoon
19
för 5 dagar sedan

I also have trouble figuring out who toxic people are. A tip I’ve found helpful is to observe how others react to them. If most people(people that I really trust) seem uncomfortable or keep their distance, I take that as a cue to be cautious. And I just don’t feel good after hanging out with toxic people. That’s how I know not to waste my time on them.

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elora.brgcför 5 dagar sedan

Thanks for these tips !!! 🫶🏼

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antnkko
22
för 6 dagar sedan

often you feel drained after spending time with them

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Lucy 🧡💛🤍🩵💙
33
för 6 dagar sedan

If someone makes you uncomfortable or think less of yourself in any way that’s usually the sign to run as fast as you can

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elora.brgcför 6 dagar sedan

But if the person manipulates us and emotionally blackmails us, and I, who doesn't know how to understand my emotions, don't realize that what she's doing is a problem, is there anything in their eyes, their features, their tones used, that would make you suspicious??