How do I deal with teenagers that are not my own kids? My sister’s kids stay with me. Lately they have been disrespectful and it’s getting to me. They get me to a point where I can’t even think properly and I’m yelling and my Brain can’t catch up. I want to disappear. Idk what to do anymore. All I know is that it’s effecting my mental health.
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Ok I may not know a lot about kids because I still am one but here’s my advice. When I acted out when I was younger, I was also having a hard time. I didn’t want to be bad. But when an adult yelled at me it made me overwhelmed and disappointed in myself which only made me act out more. I recommend asking them in a calm voice to have a little chat, talk to them as nicely as possible but also get them to understand the situation. And maybe even create a reward system for being good.
This situation is very close to a situation I had in the past. I’m sorry you’re having this experience. I understand your frustration and aggravation and you’re probably doing absolutely everything you can think of to help this situation to have a positive outcome. You both are going through a very stressful situation. I don’t know your circumstances, but if it were me I’d get into therapy for helping with communication and any issues that are related to both of your needs. I’m in my 50’s and have just started therapy (fingers crossed 🤞🏼) just a thought. I hope this situation turns around for you both soon.