how do stop going back to my ex that’s toxic :/

Break all contact. Don’t call, show up at his door, answer your door if he comes over. Be selfish with yourself. If there was something you stopped doing because of him, go back to it. If there is something you did with him and only do now out of habit, stop doing it. He may have made you feel like you weren’t important, but you should be the most important person to yourself.

I did my self you should try to get away from HIM/HER

I get it. I myself ended a 4-year long relationship with a toxic person. The period after breaking up with a toxic ex is extremely vulnerable & challenging. Here are some of my recommendations: 1) work with a therapist. Work on figuring out what it is that makes u wanna go back to him? What are the events that trigger the urge to go back to him? 2) My personal favorite (which a friend taught me!🥰) => Make a list of things that u find unacceptable from other people. These ‘things’ can be use of certain words (e.g. profanity), or exhibiting specific behaviors (e.g. silent treatment), or anything that violates your boundaries or hurts your feelings. This helps because it’s a practice for u to take the time to acknowledge and validate your own feelings, to think about where u want to set your boundaries, to reflect on how u want to be treated. Once you make this list, that is where u will draw the line. If ANYONE crosses the line… they’re out. Period. 3) Find friends/family who root for u & get genuinely happy when u succeed. It takes time, but u will find your people 💕 this helped me tremendously!

Thanks I love your post! Yes your right I have to raise up my self worth💗 so I can break that toxic pattern

If you can, find help in therapy, that helped me a lot. Also work with your self-worth and when you gonna love you more, it’s be easier to let go of people who doesn’t really care about you. You deserve nice people around