Self harm
I can’t regulate or cope with my endless days of work. I work hard for my family. All of my children have AUDHD some more severe than others. And I live with my mother whom is also AUDHD. She’s in heart failure. My husband lives here too, he’s a police officer, but is on temporary disability for arthritis. I do everything. Dr appts, medication, child care, cooking, cleaning, waking the kids up for school, taking them to school, and picking them up. My husband, whom ik is in a lot of pain, sits all day everyday and does absolutely nothing. I have severe lupus and psoriasis and this stress is making me flare so bad. So I hurt too but I don’t stop I keep doing what needs to be done. Because if I don’t no one will and I can’t live like that. So it makes me angry and stressed at my family. Then I feel terrible for feeling that way about them and then it makes me feel like I’m a bad person and I want to punish myself. Why can’t I make these thoughts stop????
Perhaps a bit more hands on approach: Make a list of things you Think needs to be done to make the Home work. Make it a checklist. Hand the list over to your husband and let him know you known he struggles with pain, but you are heading into a State of being that Will ultimately break you. Let him Pick his task from that list. Most men wants to be a fixer of problems, but have a hard time figuring out what needs to be done. Hope it helps, you will find your path someday 🙌